Poop. My entire day was filled with poop. (And let’s be honest, I wanted to use another word) Poop. This work from home mom was at her wits end.
An 11 month old in diapers. A 3 year old who keeps having accidents (it’s always something when her dad goes away—last time it was her sleep schedule and nightmares; this time it’s pooping in her underwear). And a sick puppy. Literally. SICK ALL OVER MY HOUSE. My rugs, even our brand new couch. I was literally surrounded by poop.
Disclaimer: I wrote this blog post on a particularly rough day. Plans with friends were postponed, I was frustrated that our community didn’t make concessions for parents with young children (who in our case desperately wanted be involved), and I just felt lonely. So friends, take this as a cry of frustration out from a tired mama who just needed a little grace. This post isn’t meant to call out or alienate anyone. I guarantee EVERY SINGLE parent out there – moms in particular – have felt this way at one time or another. So, tired, lonely friend, cleaning up whatever the poop is in your life right now, this is for you.
Being a parent is SUCH a beautiful thing. And before we get too far into this please know I ADORE my kids and can’t imagine a world without my them. And we want more, several more.
But some honesty?
Being a Mom can be lonely. That applies to any mom, really—whether you stay at home with your kids, work outside the house, or work from home. But this is my perspective as a work from home mom with two toddlers.
Fact: I’m a super introvert. Raised an only child, I crave—NEED—periods of quiet time. A chance for me to rest and recharge. To hear my own thoughts, to settle, to dream, to brainstorm… to miss my loved ones a little.
Add to that the fact that I’m a work from home mom. Little people don’t carry on the most enlightening conversations. Much of my day is filled with talking, but that usually consists of requests of snacks or a different show on Netflix. My babes are vying for my attention all day long—whether it be by yelling and screaming for my attention or truly manhandling me: crawling over, under and every which way.
While I’m never physically alone, emotionally & supportively, my everyday life can feel like a wasteland. Though not intentionally, this season of life often alienates us mothers from our friends who don’t have kids. I miss those friends. So then you have your mom friends, but so often those relationships consist of playdates with tiny bits of adult conversation sprinkled in between trying to keep your kids from hurting themselves. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s just the nature of the beast.
So there you are, adult relationships hanging by a thread, while your need for quality time to rest and recharge also goes unmet. And somewhere in there for the work at home mom, that thing…work—it has to get done.
I see you, mama. I see you. I know you are over people saying how lucky you are to be a work from home mom. Your choice or not (because childcare is costly), it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. I get it. I’ve – on several occasions wanted to throw in the towel. Give up my home office and go back to a regular 9-5 job, or just enroll my babes in full-time school or daycare. But I don’t. Because at the end of the day I wouldn’t change our lifestyle for anything. So I wrote this to tell you mamas that you are not alone.
Love, Yours Truly
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